So why is this super late? Personally because I bought this book a year ago and I’ve just finished this book 2 days ago lol. Blame anyone but me! *dances*
(credit goes to Gretchen Rubin)
I bought The Happiness Project because of her epiphany in the bus. And it makes me curious, what kind of things she did in a year to achieve happiness? Like its review, it made me smile and think at the same page🙂
I made the compilation of sentences/words/quotes that I like. Probably not every sentences, mostly the sentences that lingered in my head.
Don’t expect praise or appreciation.
Tell me it’s not a hard thing to do. Everyone likes to be praised. I believe it becomes from our childhood because parents always praise their children. Somehow praise = award. Maybe that’s why when you did your best but you got no praise in the end, you didn’t feel happy. I’m still working on this part, to just do my best without hoping for a praise from anyone.
Enjoy the fun of failure.
Like what she wrote on her book, “When I thought about why I was sometimes reluctant to push myself, I realized that it was because I was afraid of failure—but in order to have more success, I needed to be willing to accept more failure”. Will to accept failure! Failure sucks, but we learn something from failure. Another homework to do for sure.
Arrival fallacy, the belief that when you arrive at a certain destination, you’ll be happy.
Described by Tal Ben-Shahar in his book Happier. Also quoted from her book, “The arrival fallacy is a fallacy because, though you may anticipate great happiness in arrival, arriving rarely makes you happy as you anticipate”. That is so true! Anticipation can make you sleep less for a long time and when you get that thing that makes you excited, the feeling is flat again. Maybe that’s the reason many people say that the “getting know each other” phase is far more exciting than the “lover” phase? lol. While we’re talking about this matter, somehow I think when we like someone, we just can’t stop imagining the idea of being together with that certain person. We’re creating imagination of how this person would be if s/he was your lover. That’s what drives people crazy. *look at self*
I’d love to write everything down but her monthly resolutions are the important part. I like her resolutions! Here are some of her resolutions that I’ll try to do myself :
- Exercise better
- Act more energetic
- Don’t expect praise or appreciation
- Fight right
- Enjoy the fun of failure
- Enjoy now
- Acknowledge the reality of people’s feeling
- Take time for projects
- Find more fun
- Take time to be silly
- Start a collection (MTN and all those cute stationery)
- Remember birthdays
- Show up
- Make three new friends
- Spend out (love this idea the most. We tend to save the thing we loves for the best moment and ended up not using it, expired or broken maybe, which is a pity)
- Give something up
- Indulge in a modest splurge
- Keep a gratitude notebook (I like how she struggled with keeping a gratitude notebook because in the end, it did feel like an obligation. She’s still a human.)
- Forget about results
- Make time
- Stimulate the mind in new ways
- Give positive reviews
- Find an area of refuge
So far I start a collection, I purchased my very first Midori Traveller’s Notebook! First time I knew about this notebook was a many years ago, 8 years probably. At that time I was a university student and didn’t have a paypal account, so the idea of having MTN was sadly impossible. Then about 2 months ago I saw a lot of MTN pictures on my instagram feed and the unstoppable feeling of having one was killing me. I started my research to find a best store to purchase one since I live in Indonesia and you couldn’t find MTN in any book store. After I ordered mine, I found different online store who sells it slightly cheaper. So I’d recommend this website if you want to buy one. The happy feeling when the notebook arrived was heart-warming. Not everyone understands the reason why I want to spend fortune for a notebook but it doesn’t matter, like Gretchen said, “Be Nurul”.
I would recommend this book to anyone who’s searching for the concept of happiness. We tend to think that materials bring happiness, but it’s happiness inside that really matters. I like the way she’s telling her story because it’s not sugar coated. If she did something that bothers her, she would stop doing it, even though it’s related with the way she’s finding her happiness. You can see my opinion in the gratitude notebook. She (probably) stopped doing it and being thankful in everything she did instead, not forcing herself to keep doing it to just stick to that resolution. That’s why I said that’s human.
Thank you for reading this book review. Excuse grammatical error like always hahaha