The Blog Post : 2016 Story

It is the beginning of another new year again. Happy new year everyone!

It is usually also the time when people start making their new year resolution. A friend of mine asked what my new year resolutions are. Well I have stopped doing that since quite a long time. I only have one new year resolution every year, it’s “something has to change from the previous year.”

2016 was a year full of changes here and there.

Entering 2016, I started looking for another job. I was happy with my previous job but not that happy to stay there for a long time. Although I started thinking of changing jobs around January, I didn’t really move until August. It is not easy to make a life decision when you already feel like you are in the right track. As for me, every time I need to make a decision between two hard choices, I will spend a lot of time to consider the pros and cons of each decision. But once I make up my mind, nothing and no one can shake me to change my decision. Well unless their reason is make sense, ofc. I will listen to others’ opinions but in the end it’s always I who make the last decision.

It also happened when I got a job offer from my current employer. Boy I spent around 2-3 months to think about moving while kept continuing the interview process. I was afraid if moving was a bad idea. I was afraid if my new colleagues were not friendly like what I had at that time. I was afraid that everything was going to be very different. I was afraid if I couldn’t live up to their expectations. All those kind of worries. On the other hand, if I decided not to move, I felt like I entered a stagnant phase. A phase where what I did made me bored because I learnt nothing new. Actually I had entered this phase long before I had the job interview, I believe it was around the end of 2015. The only thing that could kept me from not moving was if the company offered me a raise or a higher position, which I also knew that’s a long way to go and the position that I wanted was in different department. That’s why I had this decision to change things.

First person I talked to when I got this offer (beside my family) was my colleague, Nanak. (Go check his blog!) I talked to him because I knew that he also had a plan to resign. His reason is way more noble than mine though lol, he is one of Chevening Scholarship 2016 Awardee. He’s going to continue his study in Master Degree at Edinburgh University, UK. I still remember what he told me when I said that I had a plan to resign. He said, “Let’s resign together!”. Isn’t that funny? 😀 So every time I had my doubt, I ran to him and his opinion helped me to shape my decision.

When my headhunter told me that I got the job, I cried. I cried because it felt real, I cried because I realized I would leave my office family. Even my mom didn’t know what to do, whether to congratulate me or soothe me. It was so silly.

Have you heard the phrase “ready or not, you have to embrace it” ? That’s basically what I did in my new place. In the first two weeks, I already felt grateful that I made this decision to move. I love the people, I love the job, I love the working environment. If we’re talking about job description, what I do now is not much different with what I did before. At first I was sad because it meant that I didn’t really up to the next level but then I realized that I am in the new level. I used to be in English course level, now I work in Education level. A whole different world to explore and learn. I was overwhelmed at first, but I’m getting better everyday.

Things even get better in daily life. I have quite free time to spend time with friends and family. I have time to do things I hardly do at my previous job like participating in Mahanalive event. The thing that I appreciate the most is, living a less stressful life. I can gladly say that since August until yesterday, things are going up in some aspects in my life. 🙂 Money wise, I still need to work on that department lol. Gimme me money people, please!!

Changes are scary indeed. There are good scary and bad scary, but as long as you have the will to change, we can appreciate all the bad and good things that it brings.

I can’t wait to see the what kind of change will I do in 2017. I have some in mind but I will keep it to myself for now.

I hope 2017 will be awesome for you too! And if you don’t like something, try to change it!

Thank you for reading as always 😉

The Journal Post : Moleskine

I think I have mentioned quite several times in this blog that I like to write. In terms of writing, nothing ever beats a good paper and a good pen. In my case, lots of them. In total, I have probably around 4 journals which I literally wrote in every single page of them. The very first one is my junior high school journal, second and third are senior high school journal, the fourth one is the journal that I’m using right now. Well 5 journals if I add my random journal that I use mostly for ranting to the list haha.

I didn’t have any physical journal when I was studying in University but I found an awesome app that made me start writing again, it’s called Day One. The interface is very simple, easy on the eyes. I started writing there daily. Sometimes it’s a long post, sometimes it’s just the main idea of what happened on that day. I am very pleased to say that I have made 734 posts so far! Really can’t wait for Day One web or laptop version, so far they only have the laptop version for Mac :/

Writing on an app is nice because technically you can write anywhere and anytime you want. But every time I felt uneasy or angry toward something, scribbling on a paper is always an option. It feels different when you’re relieving your anger through pen and papers. It feels real. Scribbling madly on paper is less chaotic option compared to throwing stuff anywhere right? xD

That’s when I decided to buy a Moleskine. The first time I’ve heard and seen Moleskine was 2 years ago when one of my dear friend used it at work. He was using a black soft cover Moleskine and I was hooked. The leather cover was so soft, simple yet elegant at the same time. It’s quite hard to find Moleskine in Bandung so I decided to buy one through Ebay. I bought the 18 months planner weekly notebook extra large black soft cover. You read it right, 18 months planner. And yes, extra large. I admit that it’s too big to put into your bag. I didn’t really use it for journaling at that time, mostly for planning and taking notes of weekly meeting.

I decided to give it another try. This time, I bought a 12 months planner weekly notebook large black hard cover (this is the 2017 version, mine is 2016).

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Moleskine 2016 12 months planner weekly

The large size is the right size for me. I can put it in my bag and carry it anywhere. I decided to buy the hard cover because I’m afraid if I buy the soft cover again and put it in my bag, it’ll be tore easily. In addition, I’m not really a fan of bent-edge book (get what I mean?)

In the first 2 months, I only wrote of the big idea of what happened on that day so I could elaborate more in Day One app when I have time.

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Very first week spread

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The Birthday Page spread!

Then I was just casually back into story telling mode, I wrote in sentence. This was also the time when I started to google about doodling, journaling and planning. I was amazed at the amount of creativity that those amazing people have.

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apparently not that creative spread

I also used one page just for pen testing. I was surprised at myself because I’m willing to jeopardize one page just for random scribble like that lol, usually I will try to make everything neat.

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Fountain Pen Test

I didn’t think going back to journaling would be this fun. I even purchased some washi tapes and cut them into small size into washi tapes sample look alike. Not really using them much though since I hardly decorated my page. Usually I use them to stick mementos.

Not forgetting the fact that I also wrote about highlights of my Malaka trip on August and haven’t written them yet otl

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Will post it someday I promise

I also added funny pictures that my friend made when he has nothing to do at office lol

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The last 5-6 pages of this weekly planner is a lined paper where you can write anything you like. I hardly used them because there are already lined pages next to the weekly pages. Since its’s December and the end of 2016 is approaching soon, I start writing stuff there. Mostly things I have in mind for 2017. One of Moleskine unique point is they come with a pocket in the back side cover. I didn’t take any picture of the pocket though :/

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The lined page

Overall experience, I’m glad I gave Moleskine another try. It helps shaping my journal writing style since I’m very new to this thing. What I don’t like about Moleskine is the limited space of writing in weekly page. Sometimes I like to write a lot of things and the fixed space is kinda bugging me. So I went to google to find some inspiration in using Moleskine. What I found is another solution, a hobonichi.

So I, like any other slaves of stationery world, bought one…………

THANK YOU GOOGLE. 

I really recommend journaling to someone who likes to remember the good old times of their lives. It also helps you to recall all the good things and the bad things that happened before and how you managed to counter them all. Kinda like improving yourself in a way 🙂

Next journal post in line : Midori Traveler’s Notebook and Hobonichi Techo Avec Cousin.

Thank you for reading! Have a good day fellas!

 

New People = New Network

When I was a child, my mom almost always told me to have a lot of friends. She said that having a lot of friends would lead you to lots of opportunities. She also said that having a broad knowledge is a must. Being smart is a bonus, but you must know a lot of knowledge. Read books. Learn new things. People love to talk to people with a lot of knowledge. What we know isn’t always right, so be open minded.

Growing up, I realized that my dad has an amazing skill in socializing. He also has a good sense of humor. I guess that’s what I have from him that helps me socializing until now. The other thing that I realized is my dad has a lot of friends. Friends that don’t even work on the same office. From different background, even. Maybe because we live in a small city, he knows at least one people from every corner of the city. It sounds like I’m exaggerating a lot xD

The first time I realized that I have the same trait with my dad is around university time. I was walking to cafeteria with my friend. On the way there, I kept saying hi to people I know while we’re passing them. It was quite a lot for a short walk. He jokingly said that I must have been very famous since I almost knew everybody in the university. It was only like 8 to 10 people I think but they were from different program/course/major.

How did I know them? Through a lot of situation.

The key here is not just joining some event committee or being part of laboratory staff or community staff. The key is the will to start approaching people first. By simply saying hi or anything. Make a conversation. What’s the point of joining a community but doesn’t have the will to approach people? Don’t wait until people approach you first. If it’s possible, approach them. Ask questions. Even simple gesture could create a friendship. You never know. But don’t be creepy lol

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Stealing Nanak‘s blog style 😄

Why am I writing about this now?

I would say because I had a fantastic weekend! Thanks to my new normal shift job (looking hard at you, old job) I was able to become a part of a music event again, just like the old time. Man how I enjoy every part of it! The rush, the problems, the craziness, the fun for sure!! I got a lot of new friends. New friends mean new networks. New networks mean new opportunities for anything, for business, for travelling, for knowledge, for anything you can think of. The possibilities are endless, if I may add.

All of these won’t happened if I didn’t take a chance in approaching my friend in Sungha Jung’s fan meeting a long time ago. We used to work together in preparing chess match for big sport event in our university. I called his name when I was queuing for the signing session, when I was standing close enough to him. I just realized that he’s actually wearing Director name tag on his neck. I was surprised! He told me that he and his friends founded Mahana Live, an event organizer company based in Bandung. The company was still small at that time, but I’m proud to say that it’s growing now! 😀

At that time, I was really interested to have an experience in working in event organizer field. So I asked him to let me know if he had another event coming up because I would like to be a volunteer in that event. And he did. He asked me to join Tiffany Alvord’s concert as a volunteer at first. Then he offered me a position as the head of Artist Room and F&B division. I was not sure to take the position because I had no idea what Artist Room division do but he believed I could do the job. I’m glad I did take that offer. Since that day, I was a part of Mahana Live family until I got my old job. Parents want me to have a stable job with stable income, so sadly I had to leave. My old job was so time consuming that I had no free time to join the team when they had some events.

I changed job almost 3 months ago. The work shift is so different than the old one, I have weekend off. Thanks to this, I had opportunity to join Mahana Live event again. My first come back moment was exactly last Saturday for Lalala Fest event in Bandung, Indonesia. Mahana Live helped them to contact 2 International Singers and 3 International DJs. Because of this, they created Artist Relation Officer team which I was being a part of. What I do was basically being their liaison while they’re in Bandung, but the Lalala LO team could not contact them without us. All communication to artists must go through us. It sounds very cool, isn’t it? xD

My ARO partner Chintya and I were assigned to assist one International DJ named Discovery (Facebook and Instagram). Discovery is Australia’s tribute to the music and image of Daft Punk which consists of 2 people. Despite of everything that happened on the D Day, they are so nice and thoughtful, and also very creative! There’s this moment when they loved the sound of police siren that was escorting us to the transit hotel. They immediately grabbed their own phone and created a music that fits the siren. On.the.spot. Inside the car. It was short but still awesome! They also made the crowd at Lalala Fest danced with their Daft Punk’s remixes. I even saw one guy was standing on top of the fence xD

Funny thing also happened for sure. Chintya and I tried to put one of the helmet on but there’s a high possibility that the helmet would stuck on our head if we did, saaaaad 😦 That was my first time being an ARO and I’m glad everything went smoothly.

From these 2 days, I met 2 awesome International men and 1 new person with amazing network to explore. The possibilities are endless, I do hope we all can work together again in the future. This all happened because of that moment when I approached my old friend. Chances are everywhere, but it is our will to take that tiny possibilities or not. Always ask, not everything will be handed to you.

Come to think of it, I got my first part time job when my friends and I were using dance studio.We would like to add another hour for practice but the guy said that they’re kinda short on people so we couldn’t add another hour. I spontaneously said was it possible if I applied for the job. He was surprised but he did tell his manager that I was interested in working part time there. Before that I was applying for part time job in some places but I heard nothing from them. Life really is unpredictable, isn’t it? Sometimes being spontaneous is what you need, even spontaneously saying hi to people 😀

So, people, have a lot of friends! I keep telling this to some friends who are shy to begin with. Human is a social creature, so might as well have a big social network. They cost you nothing!

I would love to write a lot of things that happened on these 2 amazing days but this post itself already contains 1204 words xD

Happy socializing!

To-do-list Confession

Even as the owner of this blog, I sneeze every time I open it. Too much dust every where.*sobs* Trust me when I said, updating blog is always in my to-do-list which sadly turns into to-do-list-blackhole. Writing it on to-do-list counts as effort, right? *dance to nothing*

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The Proof!

This blog is 8 years old now! And yet, the amount of post I’ve made so far is only 70 posts…. That number is horrible! 8 years, 70 posts? And I just found out about it now, otl. I’m writing on the daily journal too now, I guess that one of the reason? *grins* On screen or book, I always like to write. Writing for me is the other way of voicing my inner thought that is so hard to express sometimes. If I have to choose, writing on paper is still my favorite. Nothing beats the angry stroke you make when you’re pissed. You know what I’m saying? No? Try now!

My last post is about I read on March, titled “The Project of Happiness”. A lot of things happened since then. Would be crazy if it wouldn’t right? In fact, I would like to cross all the things that happened so far :

  1. Exercise better
  2. Act more energetic
  3. Don’t expect praise or appreciation
  4. Fight right
  5. Enjoy the fun of failure
  6. Enjoy now
  7. Acknowledge the reality of people’s feeling
  8. Take time for projects
  9. Find more fun
  10. Take time to be silly
  11. Start a collection (MTN and all those cute stationery)
  12. Remember birthdays
  13. Show up
  14. Make three new friends
  15. Spend out (love this idea the most. We tend to save the thing we loves for the best moment and ended up not using it, expired or broken maybe, which is a pity)
  16. Give something up
  17. Indulge in a modest splurge
  18. Keep a gratitude notebook (I like how she struggled with keeping a gratitude notebook because in the end, it did feel like an obligation. She’s still a human.)
  19. Forget about results
  20. Make time
  21. Stimulate the mind in new ways
  22. Give positive reviews
  23. Find an area of refuge

It’s not much, but it’s a start. 2016 has been an unforgettable year with every ups and downs, every new experience. I’m grateful for everything that happened so far. It’s almost the end of 2016 again, scary how fast the year feels. In 3 months to come, I hope 2016 is not gonna be another 2015. Not a lot of change happened in that year :/

The new goal could be ending this year with 100 posts! I have a lot of exciting idea in mind, I hope I can keep up with my own ideas lol. This blog grows together with me, maybe I should post things that also grow with me, that’s the idea~

Well until then! 😀

 

 

The Happiness Project : Super Late Book Review

So why is this super late? Personally because I bought this book a year ago and I’ve just finished this book 2 days ago lol. Blame anyone but me! *dances*

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(credit goes to Gretchen Rubin)

I bought The Happiness Project because of her epiphany in the bus. And it makes me curious, what kind of things she did in a year to achieve happiness? Like its review, it made me smile and think at the same page 🙂

I made the compilation of sentences/words/quotes that I like. Probably not every sentences, mostly the sentences that lingered in my head.

Don’t expect praise or appreciation.

Tell me it’s not a hard thing to do. Everyone likes to be praised. I believe it becomes from our childhood because parents always praise their children. Somehow praise = award. Maybe that’s why when you did your best but you got no praise in the end, you didn’t feel happy. I’m still working on this part, to just do my best without hoping for a praise from anyone.

Enjoy the fun of failure.

Like what she wrote on her book, “When I thought about why I was sometimes reluctant to push myself, I realized that it was because I was afraid of failure—but in order to have more success, I needed to be willing to accept more failure”. Will to accept failure! Failure sucks, but we learn something from failure. Another homework to do for sure.

Arrival fallacy, the belief that when you arrive at a certain destination, you’ll be happy.

Described by Tal Ben-Shahar in his book Happier. Also quoted from her book, “The arrival fallacy is a fallacy because, though you may anticipate great happiness in arrival, arriving rarely makes you happy as you anticipate”. That is so true! Anticipation can make you sleep less for a long time and when you get that thing that makes you excited, the feeling is flat again. Maybe that’s the reason many people say that the “getting know each other” phase is far more exciting than the “lover” phase? lol. While we’re talking about this matter, somehow I think when we like someone, we just can’t stop imagining the idea of being together with that certain person. We’re creating imagination of how this person would be if s/he was your lover. That’s what drives people crazy. *look at self*

I’d love to write everything down but her monthly resolutions are the important part. I like her resolutions! Here are some of her resolutions that I’ll try to do myself :

  1. Exercise better
  2. Act more energetic
  3. Don’t expect praise or appreciation
  4. Fight right
  5. Enjoy the fun of failure
  6. Enjoy now
  7. Acknowledge the reality of people’s feeling
  8. Take time for projects
  9. Find more fun
  10. Take time to be silly
  11. Start a collection (MTN and all those cute stationery)
  12. Remember birthdays
  13. Show up
  14. Make three new friends
  15. Spend out (love this idea the most. We tend to save the thing we loves for the best moment and ended up not using it, expired or broken maybe, which is a pity)
  16. Give something up
  17. Indulge in a modest splurge
  18. Keep a gratitude notebook (I like how she struggled with keeping a gratitude notebook because in the end, it did feel like an obligation. She’s still a human.)
  19. Forget about results
  20. Make time
  21. Stimulate the mind in new ways
  22. Give positive reviews
  23. Find an area of refuge

So far I start a collection, I purchased my very first Midori Traveller’s Notebook! First time I knew about this notebook was a many years ago, 8 years probably. At that time I was a university student and didn’t have a paypal account, so the idea of having MTN was sadly impossible. Then about 2 months ago I saw a lot of MTN pictures on my instagram feed and the unstoppable feeling of having one was killing me. I started my research to find a best store to purchase one since I live in Indonesia and you couldn’t find MTN in any book store. After I ordered mine, I found different online store who sells it slightly cheaper. So I’d recommend this website if you want to buy one. The happy feeling when the notebook arrived was heart-warming. Not everyone understands the reason why I want to spend fortune for a notebook but it doesn’t matter, like Gretchen said, “Be Nurul”.

I would recommend this book to anyone who’s searching for the concept of happiness. We tend to think that materials bring happiness, but it’s happiness inside that really matters. I like the way she’s telling her story because it’s not sugar coated. If she did something that bothers her, she would stop doing it, even though it’s related with the way she’s finding her happiness. You can see my opinion in the gratitude notebook. She (probably) stopped doing it and being thankful in everything she did instead, not forcing herself to keep doing it to just stick to that resolution. That’s why I said that’s human.

Thank you for reading this book review. Excuse grammatical error like always hahaha

What is mirror?

Hey ya guys!

You all are familiar with Justin Timbelake’s song Mirror right? In my opinion, that song is so beautiful and romantic. Not only that, he also dedicated the song for his grandparents, ain’t that sweet?

My friend and I ever talked about mirror in relationship, like, how do you define mirror in relationship? We came to many conclusions but not sure which one was the best lol

So let’s think about mirror theory in relationship. We see ourselves when we’re facing a mirror and doing the same thing like we do. If we raise our hand, we see our reflection does the same thing. Is that a good mirror factor in relationship? Do you prefer your loved ones to be the same like you? And we’re talking about many aspects, could be interest, could be habits, could be sports, could be anything. It would be fun to have one, wouldn’t it?

Another mirror theory is, when we’re facing a mirror and our reflection does the same thing, our reflection does it slightly different, like left and right different. Why were we talking about this mirror theory? You see, usually there are two types of answers for what kind of dream husband/wife that you’re looking forward in future. They are “have some similarities” or “totally different from me”.

My friend added one more theory but I kinda forgot what her theory was xD

Love is a strange thing, doesn’t it? You want a perfect lover, then you try to find someone who has many similarities with you, especially characters. Funny how usually it ends. Both of us are hard headed, too many similarities makes me bored, etc. You think similarities can make things easier but it also makes everything difficult. You want someone that is totally different with you because you think it’s gonna be perfect, you complete each other. Usually it ends with one party fed up with other party, tired from tolerating all the differences they have.

Can you see the mirror that I’m trying to portray here?

I’ve wanted to write this post since a long time ago but got distracted a lot, like always lol. Even until now, I’m still trying to figure out what kind of mirror that suits me best. Good luck in finding yours~ 🙂

Update :

My lovely-lazy-ass friend told me about her idea on path (called her like that because she didn’t want to add her theory in comment :p). Her theory is that the other person reflects you, what you are doing whether it’s right or wrong. The other person acts as a mirror to point out to you your best and worse features. So in a way, this person is a reminder for you to always do better and to always be grateful and accept who you really are.

I found her theory is one hell of combination 😀

The Secret Language

No, it’s not about how I secretly pass message to any of my friend if want to talk about something inappropriate not important in daily life lol

The Secret Language is a website where you can read about your personality or in Indonesian, it’s like a Primbon thing. What unique about this website is, all the knowledge are based on research from people who were born on the same birth date. That’s what my friend Wibi said about this website, or as I quoted from the website, “Secret Language scientific personality reports have proven to be over 90% accurate after 21 years in use by millions of people in a dozen languages worldwide. Our data comes from Gary Goldschneider’s 40-year empirical study of the life stories of more than 20,000 people, analyzed by date of birth“.

If you want to know more about Gary Goldschneider, feel free to use Google awesomeness in finding out about people you don’t know 😉

Oh and if you want to try this website, make sure you choose the day field to find out about your personality, because other options (48 and match) are more to relationship thingy

I’ve tried this website twice because I didn’t really read everything for the first time. I should say that most of the part are quite true, and I can’t help but wonder that there’s another people who born on January 26th in 1989 out there who feels the same way like me. I’m not the only alien in this world! xD

Traits for people who born at this date are active, dramatic, confident, destructive, dictatorial, driven, precocious, unique, self-taught, reckless, distracted, stressed-out, devoted, practical, spiritual, rigid, insecure, self-sacrificing. Aaaand yes, most of them (or almost of them) are true, ladies and gentleman. Even destructive part.

More I read about the traits, more I feel like it fits me somehow. I already restrain the urge to copy everything from there to here lol.

This part is true :

On the negative side, they have a tendency toward self-destructiveness. They are more hurtful to themselves than to others. They can be emotionally unstable, and at times can appear distracted, wired, self-absorbed, and can be easily upset. Their sensitivity to external stimuli may be pronounced in such moods, and they may have an acute need to withdraw to a quiet place, away from the bustle of the world. Easily stressed out, even prone to periodic breakdowns, they must learn to toughen themselves. If they can become less easily aroused, they will deal more effectively with the exigencies of everyday life.

Some people knows about this, about the tendency toward self-destructiveness. It’s all happening in my mind. I don’t realize it until I shared what I thought with some people and they told me that I’m over-thinking stuff. Periodic breakdowns, experienced it for quite a while I think, since last year. Not gonna talk about it hahaha.

This is also true :

In matters of love, they insist that their mates understand their need for freedom.

Heeell yeaaah I know I’m not making this up! We live for freedom! xD If we are willing to be tamed, it means you mean a lot to us, do bear that in mind. 😉

This one also :

Their giving and sacrificing side can, however, be their downfall. Too often they push themselves too hard in trying to serve their fellows or allow others to drain them of energy or otherwise take advantage of them.

Self-sacrificing at its best. Enough said.

This one too :

The Month of the Visionary is the eleventh month of the Personology year, and is universal in orientation. Those born this month symbolize advanced thought, which takes us out of our physical state and allows us to view the infinite in all things. These people also represents acceptance of all points of view, and shows the universal wisdom inherent in thoughts and actions.

Acceptance of all points of view. It’s crucial in everyday’s life, because there’s always two sides of story in every story.

And yeah this one too :

Since striking forth boldly characterizes so much of what they do, January 26 people must beware of hurting others, either psychologically or physically. Because they tend to act quickly and decisively they can take others by surprise. Consequently, loved ones may not feel comfortable or stable in their presence. Unless they make their intentions and expectations more apparent, friends and mates may find it difficult to be close or intimate with them.

Yeees I tend to act spontaneously and for that, I don’t feel sorry actually, but if I ever hurt anybody in process, I’m truly sorry. I didn’t mean that 😦

You’ll know for sure if I don’t like you (in terms you did something that purposely to hurt me, not accidentally), believe me *evil grin*

I still have sooo many things to copy paste here but then where’s the fun in reading everybody’s else personality? Go find yours!

Catch you later! xD